If you live long enough, you will finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks, and somewhere the voice inside our head cries out - ENOUGH!
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve of who or what you are, and that's OK. And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and, in the process, a sense of new-found confidence is born of self-approval.
You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, that not everyone will always be there for you, and that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself; and, in the process, a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
Mon and Dad